Spin Cycle

05.01.13

Jason Collins' Other Secret

Ex-Fiancee Shows Gay Athlete Didn't Come Clean

Update, May 3, 2013: This post has been retracted.

One of the reasons that Jason Collins’ coming out packed such an emotional punch is that he appeared to be telling all.

He had always struggled with being gay, the NBA player said to Sports Illustrated and George Stephanopoulos, drawing rave reviews for his candor and a congratulatory call from President Obama.

Except that he downplayed one detail.

He was engaged. To be married. To a woman.

He dated Carolyn Moos for eight long years.

And when did she find out about his homosexuality?

A few days ago.

"It's very emotional for me as a woman to have invested 8 years in my dream to have a husband, soul mate, and best friend in him," Moos told TMZ.

Moos recounted her ex’s admission this way to Hollywood  Life: “I have something very important to tell you I need you to sit down,” she said. “This is something that I’ve been discovering for a very long time and I’ve also supressed for a very long time.”

She would not tell CNN’s Piers Morgan whether Collins had apologized to her.

Now the relationship that Collins had with the woman who thought they were getting married until 2009 is between him and her.

But Collins was hailed by the media and other public figures for having the courage to tell his story. He mentioned the engagement in his Sports Illustrated essay, but didn't dwell on it.

I'm sure it wasn't easy becoming the first male athlete in a major sports league to come out as gay. But I have to assess a foul for the incomplete nature of the disclosure. Did Collins think his longtime squeeze was just going to stay silent?

Perhaps in his next interview, as he tries to get another basketball team to pick him up, Collins can tell us the rest of the story.