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Eleanor's Advice to Michelle
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The biographer of America’s most famous first lady, Julie Fenster, scours Mrs. Roosevelt’s diaries for advice to Michelle. First lesson: how to survive the criticisms.
Dolley Madison saved the White House and Edith Wilson took control of it, but Eleanor Roosevelt was the one who brought it to the people.
Traveling extensively and obeying none but her own curiosity, Mrs. Roosevelt revolutionized the role of the first lady. It was a job she didn’t even want at first. When her husband, Franklin, was nominated by the Democrats in 1932, she panicked, dreading the move to Washington and a life she regarded as “a prison.” With the encouragement of Louis Howe, the best friend and political adviser that she and Franklin shared, she broke out of jail in spectacular form. While Franklin gave avenues of hope to the American population, Eleanor gave it faces, names and stories.
“I lived those [White House] years very impersonally. It was almost as though I had erected someone a little outside of myself who was the president’s wife.”
Michelle Obama has yet to find a clear voice as a first lady. Perhaps she wants it that way. Or perhaps she simply needs to take the advice of Eleanor Roosevelt. A formal introduction might be somewhat tricky to arrange, Mrs. O. having been born in 1964, two years after Mrs. R. passed away. But if they were to meet, the conversation might just go like this—Michelle’s comments being imagined while Eleanor’s words are her own from speeches and writings—eavesdropped from history, verbatim:
Michelle: What was the worst thing about your first months in the White House?
Eleanor: “It was hard for me to remember that I was not just ‘Eleanor Roosevelt,’ but the ‘wife of the president.’”
Michelle: You were good, though. In one year, you had 9,000 people in for tea and 4,000 for lunch. I don’t know if I would’ve held up, greeting so many people.
Eleanor: “Bend your knees, frequently. No one will notice and you will be less tired.”
FDR’S Shadow: Louis Howe, The Force That Shaped Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt. By Julie M. Fenster256 pages. Palgrave Macmillan. $27.
Michelle: Louis Howe started the idea of your visiting regular people to see conditions for yourself. How would I decide where to go?
Eleanor: “I try not to see any projects that aren’t new. What I’m trying to do is see all the things that have any original side to them—something different from what somebody else thought about before.”
Michelle: Why didn’t you contain yourself to a particular cause: “Keep America Beautiful” or “Just Say No to Drugs” for instance?
Eleanor: “Someone wrote me the other day that I would accomplish more if I would take one or two things and work at them.”
Michelle: What do you think of that?
Eleanor: “I have no way in which I could give a certain amount of hours to anything. You just take whatever comes along and do the best you can and feel that you are gaining a general education and you’re doing what seems useful wherever possible. It may not be useful. I don’t mean that it always is.”







rhonda1309
Michelle, should I hula hoop on the South Lawn?
Eleanore: you go girl! Hula Hoop, Jump Rope and Hopscotch!
you can have it all! Yes, you can!
cbeenthere
No rhonda, trust me you will not make it to memorable status.
AnnieHarding
Cool stuff, Julie - ! Michelle Obama needs this article more than I do, though!
jeanoh
What an intriguing concept! What skill! Hope Michelle reads it!
KEH-Iowa
What a creative piece! I enjoyed getting a glimpse at Eleanor's view of her role as first lady -- some great advice for Michelle! Hope someone alerts her to read this article. Julie, you did a remarkable job culling those quotes to show just how applicable advice from the past still can be today!
louishowefan
Although we have often heard Obama's challenges compared to FDR's, it is a new look to consider the similarities between two extraordinary women such as Michelle Obama and Eleanor Roosevelt. Just as Obama might look to the New Deal, Michelle is poised to play a significant role as First Lady, helping her country just as much as Eleanor Roosevelt, and leaving her own mark on the job.
AnnieHarding
How 'bout Thomas Jefferson's advice to Hillary Clinton?
slouch
WHAT A GREAT ARTICLE THIS WAS. I ENJOYED IT LIKE I HAVE ALL OF JULIE FENSTERS WRITINGS. SHE MAKES ME LOOK AT THINGS IN A NEW PERSPECTIVE
MattAdore
If only someone had advised me to bend my knees.
This piece is fun. I like thinking of Michelle as part of a line.
xlntcat
Eleanor didn't have to cope with the 24 hour faux news tabloid cycle focused on creating conflict and controversy. The majority of the public didn't even know that her husband was in a wheel chair.
KevinNY
For her next column, I'd love for Julie Fenster to eavesdrop on a conversation between Michelle and the ghost of Eleanor's personal coach and political mentor, Louis Howe. An ex-newsman and experienced political operative who in the early 1930s could foresee a woman as president--and hoped to make it Eleanor, in 1940--Howe likely would be surprised that the United States had elected an African-American president before a woman.
Having made Eleanor, insecure and suffering from low self-esteem, into a confident speaker and public figure--and in the process a more-assertive but still-supportive wife--Howe would not fail to perceive the unique possibilities open to the first First Lady of African descent. He would also perceive the unique challenges of that role--and how the public's reaction to what Michelle Obama says and does affects its opinion of her husband. Like Franklin and Eleanor, Barack and Michelle are cut from somewhat-different cloth.
In a book with a now-ironic subtitle, "A Bound Man: Why We Are Excited About Obama and Why He Can't Win" (Free Pr., 2007), the conservative race-relations scholar Shelby Steele described two, alternate strategies that black Americans have used to get ahead in a white-majority society. One he called "bargaining," the other, "challenging." "Bargainers strike a 'bargain' with white America in which they say, I will not rub America's ugly history of racism in your face if you will not hold my race against me. Challengers do the opposite .... They charge whites with inherent racism and then demand that they prove themselves innocent by supporting black-friendly policies like affirmative action ...."
Steele argued that Obama was unelectable because he would be unable to express his true beliefs about race in America, and that voters would sense this lack of authenticity. Obama would be caught, Steele thought, between the black-identity politics of his African-American base--exacerbated, because of his mixed parentage and abandonment by his father, by a need to prove himself sufficiently "black"--and the resentments and fears of many white voters. Steele was wrong for two reasons. African-American voters proved themselves quite capable of recognizing, in this candidate of mixed racial background, a person who had--like them--at times in his life felt the sting of racism. His appearance alone satisfied them of that; the candidate had no need for displays of racial identity or solidarity. Secondly, Steele misread Barack Obama's temperament, and underestimated his political skill and discipline. Barack Obama won election by making it clear that he intended to be a president for ALL Americans, and by keeping the focus off his race and on the issues of the hour: the economy, health care, and especially our by-then unpopular entanglement in Iraq.
Had the candidate been Michelle Obama rather than Barack, Steele might have been right. Barack is a bargainer, but I sense that--left to her own devices--Michelle is a challenger. We got a glimpse of that during the campaign, in Michelle's unscripted remark that because her husband had won the nomination, "For the first time" she was, "proud of my country." The McCain campaign quickly hustled Cindy McCain out to assure voters that SHE had "ALWAYS been proud of my country."
For me, the most-striking comment by Mrs. Roosevelt in the conversation that Julie Fenster imaginatively constructed was this: "I never said anything ... without first balancing it against the objectives which I thought he [FDR] was working for at the time." The operative word there must be "balancing," because--as Eleanor must have known--her appeal was primarily to left-leaning groups who were already in her husband's camp, while he was desperately working to shore up support among groups--such as southern Democrats--who were much-less-reliably in his corner. He was building the Jefferson Memorial, and elevating Jefferson to the pantheon of great presidents; at the same time (1939) she was arranging for Marian Anderson to sing at the Lincoln Memorial after the D.A.R. had barred her from performing in Constitution Hall. Eleanor's ideals were laudable--and I'm sure that FDR thought so also--but did NOT always dovetail with her husband's objectives.
We should, and do, judge leaders not by their ideals, but by their accomplishments. We remember Lincoln for preserving the union, and for ending slavery. We forget that he tempered his ideals in order to accomplish those huge feats. Few today quote his remarks to (white) Illinois voters that by no means did his opposition to the extension of slavery imply support for black suffrage; he opposed that, he said. Even the emancipation came in stages. A wise leader knows that by trying to move his fellows further than they can, at the moment, be persuaded to go, he or she forfeits the chance to lead them where--with effort and luck--he might be able to take them. FDR understood that better than Eleanor. Does Michelle Obama understand it as well as President Obama?
For idealism, concern for others, selflessness, and strength of character, Michelle could do worse than model herself on Eleanor Roosevelt. For practicality and political astuteness, and ability to instill hope, she might better look to FDR. For perseverance in the face of difficulty, both Franklin and Eleanor are excellent models. And for lessons on how to keep two very-different people together--and together accomplish their objectives--Michelle should read Julie M. Fenster's excellent new biography of Louis Howe, "FDR's Shadow."
DevilsLawyer
Fun dialogue! And good advice for all of us, not just first ladies. Good job culling the quotes from so many different sources.
larry278
Michelle Obama has a voice. Rightwingnuts heard it when Ms Obama said that she was ashamed for America. Rightwingnuts are hearing impaired in addition to being dense, depraved, disgusting & a million other handicaps. Rightwingnuts didn't hear Ms Obama saying, "...for..." ;they tried to say that Ms Obama had said, "...of...". The rightwingnuts still have egg on their faces & covering them from head to toe for that.
It's gotten so that the public ignores the tantrums of rightwingnuts & their ilk. Rightwingnuts grow livid with rage when they are ignored. The rightwingnuts & their ilk will be sent to their rooms soon.
KevinNY
For idealism, concern for others, selflessness, and strength of character, Michelle could do worse than model herself on Eleanor Roosevelt. For practicality and political astuteness, and ability to instill hope, she might better look to FDR. For perseverance in the face of difficulty, both Franklin and Eleanor are excellent models. And for lessons on how to keep two very-different people together--and together accomplish their objectives--Michelle should read Julie M. Fenster's excellent new biography of Louis Howe, "FDR's Shadow."
rhonda1309
Creative, this was the silliest piece I ever wasted my time reading, CLINTON also had conversations with Eleanore, libs have short memories.
PeterBrent
Julie - this is a wonderful piece - timely and timeless at the same time. Bravo for bringing together past and present so artfully - I'm sure both of these extraordinary ladies would heartily approve! PB
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