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    A Virtual Girlfriend—For The Right $$

    MyGirlFund lets lonely men pay to flirt with girl-next-door types—but does it border on porn? Caroline Linton investigates.

    At first, Jenny (not her real name) was skeptical when she heard about MyGirlFund. The site told her that if she shared photos and flirted with male members via video chats—but nothing more—she would get a chunk of the site's profits.

    “Why would guys want to spend money to get to know me, have fun and flirt with me?” Jenny wrote in an email. “But it only took a little while and I got addicted to it. I can tell you that MyGirlFund has been a blessing to me.”

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  • (L-R) Co-founders of Crankytown.ca, Vanessa Matsui, Jenna Wright and Liane Balaban. (Kourosh Keshiri)

    Big Red Tent

    A Film Festival For Aunt Flo

    Crankytown—the menstruation-themed website—is attracting edgy young stars with its new film fest.

    In her 1978 essay, "If Men Could Menstruate," Gloria Steinem imagined a world in which America's so-called "superior" gender faced its period each month. "Men would brag about how long and how much. Young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood.” More importantly, "Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free.”

    But since men have not yet acquired that superpower, three Canadian actresses have taken it upon themselves to "recognize the primacy of menstrual rights," as Steinem put it. They are the women behind Crankytown, a website for all things menstrual.

    “I think one of the reasons that men tend to be more interested in shitting and farting is because they don’t have periods,” co-founder Liane Balaban told The Daily Beast. “They don’t have this amazing event each month where something comes out of your body that represents your reproductive power.”

    Crankytown celebrates this reproductive power, providing information about periods—both on the website and during Twitter chats, like its upcoming "Period Q&A" live tweet on April 17 at 8pm, under the hashtag #AskDrCranky—and serves as an outlet for women to share their stories about menses. Here readers can find period poetry written by the singer Feist, and actresses Emma Thompson and Kathy Baker, as well as short films starring the likes of Mad Men’s Jessica Pare and Balaban herself playing Katniss Everdeen in a popular Hunger Games spoof.

    “I think there’s a level of excitement around telling your story because there’s never been a place to really share this experience,” said Balaban, who initially started the project as a poetry anthology. “Because it’s seen as a women's experience it’s marginalized. That’s what we’re trying to change.”

    In a 2011 study, "The Menstrual Mark: Menstruation as Social Stigma," Joan C. Chrisler and Ingrid Johnston-Robledo found that in the U.S., even educational booklets paint menstruation as a negative experience. "Cramps, moodiness and leaks were all mentioned frequently, but growing up was the only positive aspect mentioned," they wrote. "Girls living in the U.S. learn simultaneously that menstruation is important and natural and that they should hide and ignore it."

    According to Chrisler and Johnston-Robledo, this has bred a nation of women with low self-esteem who tend to exercise "self-consciousness" and "hyper-vigilance" in the presence of their periods. Adding to the stigma are euphemisms like “Aunt Flo” and “the crimson wave” which are used to camouflage “menses” and “menstruation.”

    Vanessa Matsui, another Crankytown co-founder, admitted she was asked not to mention the words “period” or “menstruation” on a Canadian morning news show a couple of years ago while promoting the website--despite the fact that she had already sent emails back and forth with the show’s producer about her site’s period-heavy theme. The host allegedly dropped the bomb on Matsui minutes before the live show. “Is there another word that we can use that’s not period?” the host supposedly said. “Because, I mean, people are eating their breakfast.”

    Though Courteney Cox used the word “period” for the first (second and third) time on television in 1985 in a Tampax commercial, menstruation has by no means become a pop cultural norm. According to the Huffington Post, for her 2012 book, Periods in Pop Culture, Lauren Rosewarne only came up with 200 or so scenes that mentioned menstruation in films and TV shows going back to the ‘70s. “When menstruation does appear, it is treated as a drama," she wrote. "It is either traumatic, embarrassing, distressing, offensive, comedic or thoroughly catastrophic."

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