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Old Is the New Sexy
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The Daily Beast's Susan Cheever talks to Last Chance Harvey's Emma Thompson about sexuality, her biological clock, and why being in love is like being dead.
When Dustin Hoffman first makes Emma Thompson laugh in the romantic comedy Last Chance Harvey, it’s as sweet and passionate as any Romeo and Juliet moment…except for one thing. Hoffman (Harvey), 71, and Thompson (Kate), 49, are old enough to be Juliet’s grandparents.
Stuck in an airport bar—he’s missed his plane, she’s missed her life—they connect like the last two people on earth: fearlessly, freely, flirtatiously. They’re too tired to pretend. Hunched over her sad glass of single-girl Chablis, she’s alluring to him in her aging state, if only because she doesn’t have much to lose.
There’s a freedom to even the loneliest old age that can be more romantic than the driven, find-me-a-life-partner focus of the young.
So…is old the new sexy? This was my first question to Emma Thompson when we sat down to chat for The Daily Beast. “I think it’s very sexy because of course you know so much more when you’re older,” she says. “There’s a myth that young people go around saying ‘La la la! These are the best days of my life.’ I think that’s bollocks. I think young high-achievers are particularly miserable. We’ve been told that it’s all somehow over at 30.”
Thompson told me she took on the role of Kate in part to help expand our definition of erotic. “We’re very childish and primitive in our sexual relations with one another,” she explains. “I think we’re very underdeveloped. [I hope] this stretches people’s imaginations a little bit or invites them into not the usual paths, not the usual emotional paths.”
Last Chance is the tale of two of self-pities—Harvey’s daughter has asked her stepfather to replace him at her wedding; Kate is on her way to spinsterhood and caring for a hysterical mother—and it shows that there’s a freedom to even the loneliest old age that can be more romantic than the driven, find-me-a-life-partner focus of the young.
If the movie is to be believed, 40-something has suddenly become the most attractive age a woman can be.
The theory is this: Women in their 20s are looking for a financial help to allow them to afford a comfortable life, and women in their 30s are searching for someone to impregnate them before it’s too late. Only a woman in her late 40s can actually, at last, be interested in what turns her on. And she can be funny about it, too—especially if, like Thompson’s Kate Walker, she’s just been on a blind date that forcefully reminds her of the heedlessness and connection of the young. Especially if the part of the aging old bat is played by Thompson, an actress so irreverent that she keeps her two Oscars in the bathroom, and who brings wit and force to a role that many actresses might have turned down.
Perhaps Thompson took the part because she knows the mathematics of aging and biology firsthand. Married to fellow actor and director Kenneth Branagh at 30 and part of a famous, golden couple, she found herself running out of time. “When I started to suspect that I couldn’t have children,” she says, “my first marriage was already in trouble. I couldn’t start thinking about it until I was 35; and that was already pretty late. So the result of that meant I had my first child when I was 40.” (She and her second husband, actor Greg Wise, had their daughter in 1999, four years after her divorce from Branagh.)
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sandrac
Let's see - she is 49 and is "old" and he is 71. Looks like the same old hollywood story to me. Couldn't they find an "old" 49 year old male actor she could fall in love with? Or was he too busy with the 21 year old daughter? Nothing new here.
PatriceFitz
"Aging old bat"?! Please. Was that supposed to be a wry commentary on the way the world sees women around 50?
Not only is such a character plenty capable of delicious romance (including lust), but a man 22 years OLDER than her would see her as a hot young chick.
I just remarried at 53, and it was stunningly easy to find dates -- even with younger men. I want to see Hollywood make the movie about the 50-year-old woman who has to fend off the advances of guys in their 30's because they're just too young and boring.
thales
First it was "never trust anyone over 30", then it was "30 is the new 20", then "40 is the new 20", and now "old is sexy". I can't wait until "dead is the new sexy", then maybe we can finally rid ourselves of this most-selfish of all generations.
olgafavreau
Ditto and bravo to sandrac. Hoffman is actually old enough to be Thompson's father - why should she get involved with a man whose life expectancy is decades shorter than hers? How about a sequel in which she ends up nursing him during her golden years? Give romantic heroes women partners their own age.
jblum8156
I had a friend who married for the fourth time (no kids yet) at 66 to a 26-yr-old hottie, and proceeded to father two girls. Unforunately he died a few months before the second baby was born but he really was happy about the babies.
kansasrefugee
I'm with sandrac and olgafavreau. Why isn't Helen Mirren or Jane Fonda or Meryl Streep playing the love interest of Dustin's character instead of an actress 22 years younger? And as jblum8156 points out, the failure of older men to acknowledge their mortality leaves children they have in their 60s, or even 50s, at a significant risk of having a childhood without a father - very selfish (and delusional) of these men indeed and why are we as a society indulging them?
Rosita1230
sandrac, you are right on! This is an astounding bit of nonsense applauding the same old story from Hollywood. I don't know how old you are Susan Cheever, but you've got a lot to learn about how to support women of all ages. At 49, I would never have dated a man in his seventies--creak, creak. I would barely date a man in his fifties as I was actively involved with men 10-12-15 years younger. And I'm no great beauty, not am I an exception to what is going on in the world, but I love men who are actively engaged in the world mentally and physically and whose minds are not closed to new ways of thinking about age, love, and sex. The absurd view espoused in this blog must have been meant to provoke discussion. Personally I think women need to boycott films that continue Hollywood business as usual and show support instead for women-produced and directed films that show the full breadth of women's capabilities.
finderj
How old are you that 49 is 'aging'? And since when is a 22-year age difference romantic? I am sure that the film, with the glorious Thompson and the charming Hoffman, is poignant and sweet, but I would really like to see more stories about people over thirty who are reasonably close in age. Let's face it - the much older man getting the younger 'hottie', whatever their respective ages, is largely a male fantasy. When was the last time you saw a popular movie about a woman over 50 being rewarded with perfect romance for getting involved with a 22-year old man? When was the last time you had lunch with women over fifty who were actually hoping to get involved with a twenty-year old boy? Younger, why not? Thirty years younger? Why in the world? Maturity is an advantage, and it's a shame that we haven't got more films out there that celebrate mature people managing to find love, romance and sex, and to avoid the most stupid gaffes inexperience and youthful selfishness cause, with partners about the same age. Any takers?
bridlewood1
Too tired to pretend? Because she's "old" at 49? Because she's "missed her life" as you describe? I can only hope Ms. Cheever that when you reach the "ripe old age" of 49, and having become an even more beautiful, accomplished and intelligent woman than you are at your present age, you will not only be too tired but too dignified to countenance a romance with a wizened 71 year old man who will have no business looking in your direction. That should have been the long and short of this review.
jeffzekas
If you want to see old guys with young women, drive to Lake Tahoe... and, in Hollywood, even if you are "old", you don't LOOK old, due to cosmetic surgery!
smdunne
I think Emma Thompson has two Oscars...not five.
EarlyQuit1
Emma Thomas is a doll and sexy,I am 61 and like to dream.
WICKET99
SPINSTER? I haven't heard THAT word in ages. And here I was, hoping it had just gone out of style...
MS. Cheever: using a word like this is DISGUSTING.
PatriceFitz
According to Wikipedia, Susan Cheever was born in 1943, thus making her 65 -- considerably older than Emma Thompson or the character she plays in this movie.
I can only imagine that Cheever was trying to be provocative. Maybe she should date Dustin.
rosario0829
I love the story in this movie.I can not wait to see it,i think,sexiness is for adults.
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